Fairness

One of my biggest pet peeves, are those who tell me "it's not fair". Life is not fair. This isn't second grade where everyone gets 10 grapes at lunch. This is life and it's messy. If you are looking for it to be fair, well, you are going to be depressed and anxious and mostly …

Homeschool

I can't believe I'm about to type this but...I'm going to homeschool T this year. With the move and the pandemic I have debated what would be best for him. I've got a list of pros and cons for all situations. I've wrestled with the decision but ultimately it comes down to 1) I'm in …

Faith

Faith is believing in something you can't see. Faith is how I made it though every bad situation, stressful event, unpleasant moment in my life. My son is learning about God. He's learning that life is hard and through faith people overcome the difficult spots. It has been interesting to watch an 8 year old …

Time

Within a few days of my husband dying I heard the Tracy Lawerence song, "Time Marches On". The lyrics always stuck with Jerry as his dad was buried beneath a maple tree. I was struck by how people just kept living their lives like nothing major had happened to my family. Fast forward three and …

Triggers

When you lose someone to death, there are lots of little things that can bring that grief back raw and messy. Some things are so simple you feel foolish for losing it over them. While others can take a while to surface. For me, I cope fairly well. My triggers are around how my children …

Planning

On January 8, 2019 I said good bye to my uterus, I named her Ursula. It was the first major health issue I've had to deal with since Jerry died. It brought to the surface that I have put off writing my will and creating a trust for T. It made me afraid of what …

Moms

Not everyone has to give birth to be a mom.  Some of the best moms I know didn't physically have a child.  Being a mom is a mindset.  Some of us have it and some of us don't. I didn't realize how hard parenting was until I was a single parent.  I don't have an …

Parenting

Someone told me that parenting wasn't for wimps.  You'd think after almost 28 years of being a parent I'd have a good grasp on the process.  But the thing is, parenting is different for each kid.  What worked 28 years ago isn't working today.  When I found out I was going to have a baby …